If He Can't Live Without You Then Why Isn't He Dead Yet? How To Keep Unwanted Old Flames Away From Your Wedding:

Have an old flame that you absolutely do not want turning up at your wedding? It happens more than you think. Here are some great ways to keep mister wrong away on your special day…

So you have an ex boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse or even an old friend that would cause a real scene if they knew you were getting married? Are you afraid of being embarrassed by the commotion they would no doubt create with your guests? This can be a very serious and complex problem to over come so that you can relax and enjoy your special day. The key is getting the cooperation of your friends and family. Everyone must be working at either not telling or telling the same story to your potential gatecrasher.

Direct Approach
If you feel that you can safely and sanely communicate with you ex then the direct approach is best for everyone. Talk with them and tell them clearly and directly that you are getting married and would appreciate no interference. This is always the kindest, most honest and straightforward way to go. Do not be confusing and make a clear request to stay away. Give them a chance to be mature about it. Perhaps you are worried about nothing.

Secrecy
If your worries are well founded then maybe the best way to keep unwanted exes from showing up at your wedding is to make sure that they never find out that you are getting married in the first place. Be open and up front with any common friends that you are concerned and absolutely do not want Mr or Miss X to know about the event and especially not the details like when and where! In the worst-case scenario you may have to skip inviting those risky friends. You could go as far as putting a special insert into your invitations for these people so there is no way they can say that you didn't tell them. If they cannot keep a secret then they are out.

Deception
Okay, a wedding is a pretty big event to cover up entirely especially if you share a large group of friends with your ex. You may have to play the deception game in order to keep the ex guessing about when or where you are planning your big day. Send out two sets of invitations. One set with all the correct information goes to family and trusted friends. A second set of invitations goes to the people who are likely to share the information with your ex. On the day of the wedding a quick phone call with the revised arrangements will get the second group to the church and reception without any embarrassing surprise guests. You could even create a fake invitation to make sure that your ex is misinformed of dates and places. Or why send invitations at all? Make it more personal by telling each guest in person.

Distraction
This is probably the most fun solution because you create a distraction that lures your exes attention away from your big day. Get his buddies to take him on a road trip or to his favorite teams away game. Heck, beg, borrow or rent a date for them! Do anything to get him out of the city or focused and occupied so they will be too distracted to wreck your big day with mister right.

Distance makes a difference
If it appeals to you, consider having a smaller destination wedding at a resort or bed and breakfast in some far away romantic location. Not many people would travel long distances just to make a fool of them selves. At very most you might get a drunk-dialed call on your wedding night.

No matter what, have your friends and family prepared to shield you from any unwanted guests. This is your big day and no one should ruin it for you!